Faith 5, Part 4: Praying for one another

Philippians 4:4-7

John 15:1-8

            Here’s a secret for you. The choir – up there in the choir loft – doesn’t just sing.  

            On Wednesday when they come, they do practice the songs and they learn the piece they will sing. But, they do something else, too. They pray.  

            Now sometimes they pray by singing – because some of the songs we sing actually ARE prayers…. Songs like “Spirit of God, Descend upon my Heart” or “Open the Eyes of my Heart Lord” --- actually many of our songs are prayers. 

             But that’s not what I mean.  At the end of our rehearsals, we have a devotion, and we ask for prayer requests, and we pray together.  

            We pray for one another. And – here’s another secret – it’s not just me doing the praying.  

            There’s a small group of us who take turns taking the prayer concerns and praying for each other.  

            So – We are on step four of the Faith 5 – PRAYER.   

            First we learned how important it is to share with one another our highs and lows, to share the concerns of our hearts, to build community in our families and in our congregation.  

            Then in step two, we learned to share scripture, share the Word of God with one another.  A verse a day, a story a week.  The word of God grounds us and helps us remember who we are.  

            Then we talk about it – we talk about Scripture and relate it to our lives.  And then finaly – well, almost finally, because there is one more step after this – finally, we pray together.  We pray for one another.  We pray WITH one another.  

            And prayer is so foundational for us – it’s one of the first things we learn, isn’t it?   

            When we baptize a child, as ask the parents and godparents to teach their children, “The Lord’s Prayer, the Creed, and the Ten Commandments.”  

            Prayer is first – not just the Lord’s prayer, but prayer in general.  Prayers at bedtime.  Prayers around the table, before we eat.  And in some ways it’s so easy, and in some ways it’s not.  

            What is prayer? There are all kinds of methods – and all kinds of ways to pray.  There are written-down prayers like we have in our worship book.  

            And there is the “five finger prayer” that I taught the children this morning.  

            Prayers can be beautiful and poetic, or they can be simple.    Author Anne Lamott said once that she really only knows three prayers – Help – Thanks – and Wow.   

            Every prayer can be reduced to one of these words.  Perhaps.

            At the heart of it, though, prayer is a conversation.  

            It is not a method, not a set of rules, but a relationship.   

            Prayer is sharing our worries, our cares, our thanks,  our joy – everything – with God.  

            And I know that many of us here have deep and rich prayer lives, and that we truly do try to take everything to God in prayer.  We pray for one another.  We pray for our children.  

            We pray for our congregation.  Maybe you even – on occasion – pray for your pastor.  

            But when I’m talking about the faith5, and the fourth step, “Prayer,” there’s this added layer, because we aren’t just praying for each other, privately, to ourselves.  It’s not like when someone says to me, after worship, “Pastor, will you pray for me,” and I promise to pray for them, and then I go home and pray.  

            This is when – as families, or with friends – we don’t just pray for each other, but we pray with each other too.     

            In choir, in our families, parents and children, in Bible study – we listen to one another’s joys and one another’s concerns, and then we pray.  And in that way, prayer binds us to God – and it binds us to one another. 

            Just as it takes trust to share with one another – it also takes trust to pray for one another -- 

            So one of the things I used to do with self-conscious students was to invite them just to say a word, or a name 

            – just to name a name of someone they were concerned about, or to say a word that named something they were thinking about – that’s the way we started, so that we could get used to hearing the sound of our own names, and know it was okay to speak.  

            Later on, we’d share more deeply, and pray more deeply as well – sharing secrets about friends we were concerned about, about the causes that gave our lives meaning.  

            So – right now, I’d like to try something – something small. 

             I’d like everyone here to think of a name.  Think of a name of someone you would like to pray for, for whatever reason.  Close your eyes and say that name to yourself.  

            Does everyone have a name?  Now – we are all going to say our names aloud – at the same time -- .  When I give the cue – Let us pray.  Gracious God, today we pray for…. (say the names.)  Hold them all in the palm of your hands.  Keep them and heal them and guide them, and do for them what is wise and compassionate.  AMEN.

            So – it is part of the forming of community to pray – and to share prayer.  

            To share the intercessions as we do on Sunday morning --  to share prayers of thanksgiving and praise – to share our confessions and failings – the hardest things, perhaps.  

            But it’s part of how we become community, Christian community – not just here, but in our homes, and among our friends, and in the world.   

            And praying together, and praying for one another strengthens our faith, helps our children have confidence in their praying, and strengthens our community too.  

            But I do have to add one thing – I don’t want to sweep anything under the carpet, in order to paint a rosy picture of praying.  

            And that’s the subject of prayers which are not answered, or not in the way we want.  

            And sooner or later, especially if we are learning to pray honestly, sooner or later that is going to happen to us.  And we have to be honest – that prayer is a great and intimate conversation, and that God guides us through prayer, and that we can come to God with anything – ANYTHING 

            – but what do we say when God doesn’t give us the answer – or the answer we want?  Especially, what do we say to a child?  

            But not just children… right?  We can come to God with ANYTHING, but sometimes, even though God loves us, the thing we think is best doesn’t happen, and we can’t understand.  

            We just have to keep believing that God loves us and will be with us, no matter what…. 

            And keep praying.  There’s a promise for us in the gospel reading today, that I think has to do with prayer.  

            Jesus says “I am the vine and you are the branches.” That means that always and always, he is holding on to us.  

             He is holding on to us, and because he is the vine, he is giving us his life.  That means that even our prayers, in the end, come from him.       And because he is the vine, and YOU ALL – are the branches, that means that our relationship with God is never just one to one.   

            We’re always praying together, even when we are alone.  

            Prayer bonds us to the one who has given us life – prayer bonds us to Jesus – but it bonds us to one another in the vine too

             – whether we are certain or doubting, whether we are young or old, no matter where we are in the body, we are bound together in Jesus, the vine.

AMEN

            

Faith5: Talk with your children -- talk with one another

Deuteronomy 6:4-9

John 10:10b-18

       

            The first theologians I ever knew – were my parents.

            They didn’t use big words like “justification” or “hermeneutics” but they said things to me that even they probably don’t know – influenced me – and what I believe. 

            I don’t know if that makes you hopeful – or nervous.

            Take my mom, for example. 

            When we were in junior high, our congregation built a new sanctuary!  It was larger and impressive.  And it had a balcony! 

            Not like our choir loft here, but a balcony that went almost all the way around the church. 

            We were excited!  But, our mom wouldn’t let us sit up there. 

            She said (and I apologize to the choir here) that “the balcony was for spectators, not participants.”

            Hmmmm.  You mean worship is something I am supposed to PARTICIPATE in?  You mean I am supposed to engage in worship? 

            You mean worshipping God is ACTIVE?  Theology.

            Or my dad. 

            I don’t remember the occasion now, but sometime after a local tragedy, when people were talking about those who didn’t die and saying that “God was with them,” my dad said,

            “what about the people who died?  Wasn’t God with them, too?  What about people who get sick and DON’T recover?  Isn’t God with them too?  Is God only with us with things are going well?”

             Theology.

            Theology.  God-Talk.  That’s the third step of the faith 5. 

            Two weeks ago we learned the first step.

            Sharing with each other our highs and our lows, our joys and our sorrows, being vulnerable and creating deeper relationships of trust:  in our families, with our friends, in our congregation. 

            Last week we learned the second step:  READ. 

            Read scripture together.  A verse a day, a story a week, whatever, whatever works for you, for your family. 

            And we even shared some scripture. 

            I think that today’s step, TALK, is the hardest--  at least for a sermon – I mean, to TALK about TALKING.

             That just sounds boring! 

            I don’t want to talking about talking. 

            But what the third step is about is how we learn to connect God to our lives, to  share how God is in our lives, and to learn to do that – it’s spiritual dynamite. 

            And we do that by sharing a particular scripture, and how it connects to our lives.

            In Rich Melheim’s instructions about the Faith 5, he asks families in particular to try to tie their own highs and lows of the day to the verse or story that they read. 

            And I’ll be honest:  That’s hard.  You might not be able to do it all of the time, or even most of the time, at first. 

            But even though you can’t tie the verse to your daily highs and lows, you can still “talk about it.”, using the words from Deuteronomy 6.    “Keep these words that I am commanding you today in your heart.  Recite them to your children and talk about them when you are at home.              Talk about them when you are away.  Talk about them when you lie down.  Talk about them when you rise.   Talk about them.”

            Sometimes you will be able to connect them with your day. 

            Other times you may not.  But talk about them. 

            Tell your children and your grandchildren what you think, what you feel, what you believe.  Ask them the same. 

            I was so inspired by the people who shared their favorite verses and stories last week that I asked the same thing at our council meeting on Monday night. 

            What’s your favorite Bible verse and what does it mean to you?  And you know what, a few of us shared as well. 

            One woman shared the verse from the Book of Esther, “who knows but that you have come to your position for such a time as this?”         She wondered the same thing about herself, and about our congregation. 

            One man shared about learning just how blessed he was in comparison with most of the world, and it changed how he read the scriptures about giving, and about money, and about what true wealth really was.

            It changed how he saw himself and the world. 

            And as I listened, I thought that I would like more of us to be able to do this:  do know and be able to share with one another scripture and God-talk.  Theology. 

            So it’s for families, for our children, but not just for them. 

            It’s for the strength of our congregation, as well. 

            The people of Israel needed those instructions from God because they lived in a world where their neighbors did not know the Lord, know Yahweh, where they lived by different, more brutal values,

            and where it would be a challenge for them to remain faithful to the way of their God, who called them to remember the poor, and to protect the vulnerable, to feed the hungry. 

            So he called on them to know the Word, to recite it, and to talk about it…..

            so, that, again, we will know who and whose we are… so that we will know and recognize God’s presence ... And what is our purpose in life      

            Bringing Scripture and our lives together:  That’s theology. 

            And it’s powerful when we can talk TOGETHER, and strengthen and encourage one another.  It’s not an easy world we live in. 

            It wasn’t an easy world for the first Christians, either. 

            And so Jesus called himself, the Good Shepherd, the one who laid down his life for the sheep, and also – in the verse just before it, the one who gives us abundant life.   

            But here’s a theological question:  What does abundant life look like? 

            You know, we usually separate these two verses.  We hear one of them, about abundant life, on one Sunday, and one of them, about the Good Shepherd, on another Sunday. 

            But what if we heard them together.

             I came that they may have life, and that they may have it abundantly.  I am the good shepherd. 

            The Good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.  What does abundant life look like? 

            What will you tell your children?  What will your children tell you?

            Our culture is willing to tell us a lot about what abundant life looks like

            It looks like being rich.  It looks like being successful. 

            It looks like being popular.  It looks like being thin.  It looks like having a lot of “stuff

            And our culture tells us that we are not “enough.”   (good enough – young enough – old enough – we need to be and have MORE)

            Because – you know – it wants to sell us stuff.  But what does God say?  What does abundant life look like?  (Ask for responses.)

            We have abundant life simply because the good shepherd laid down his life for us

            And he laid down his life for us because he loves us – just as we are. 

            He didn’t lay down his life so that he could love us, but because he already does. 

            We are already beloved, and that measure – that’s the only one that matters – not anything else the world tells us. 

            Just the shepherd’s voice.   

            TALK.  Talk to your children.  Listen to them. 

            Listen to the word, and the voice of the shepherd. 

            It’s a matter of life and death. 

            It’s a matter of love..  For all of us, young and old and everyone in between, God’s people.

            AMEN